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How to Know if a Military Guy Likes You? (6 Signs)

Written by Everett Bledsoe / Fact checked by Brain Bartell

how to know if a military guy likes you

Dating is not always as straightforward as we want it to be. It is difficult to recognize if someone has feelings for you, especially if that person is a military personnel that you have met through the Internet.

Plus, unfortunate as it is, there are many cases of online military dating scams, particularly those involving money. So, to spare you from a broken heart and drained wallet, we have put together a short guide on this topic. Use it to learn how to know if a military guy likes you.

In short, these are the top signs that a military guy is interested in you:

  • He flirts with you
  • He trusts you
  • He shares his feelings with you
  • He calls you whenever he has time
  • He gives you attention
  • He looks for your support

In addition, when talking to a military man, these will tell you if he is an imposter and fraud:

  • He avoids calls and video calls
  • He is quick to confess to you
  • He immediately refers to you as love, baby, darling,…
  • He asks you to send him money

For all the details, continue reading!


How to Know if a Military Guy Likes You: 6 Signs


There are many ways that you can tell a military guy is into you. But, here are some of the most obvious signs that we have compiled!

1. He flirts with you

Like any other guy, the one you meet from the military will try to show that he is interested in you by flirting. This is the most obvious sign to recognize that he likes you.

Some subtle flirting cues are prolonged eye contact, deep gazes, playful touches, and open body language. But keep in mind that flirting is not a universal language. In reality, flirting varies with personalities.

A confident guy may shoot you with a lot of pick-up lines, let you catch him checking you out, and can be more upfront about his feelings. On the other hand, a reserved guy may be less bold in his actions, shy away from proximity, but steal glances and look for ways to stir up a conversation.

Flirting is a good sign a guy likes you. However, as with most things in life, there is a caveat: some guys flirt without having true feelings, and some guys have true feelings without flirting. So, you will have to be a bit more attentive to know for sure that a guy likes you.

Do not rely on just this sign to determine. When a guy likes you, he rarely gives just one sign. Therefore, do not jump to a conclusion just yet and continue down this list.

2. He trusts you

Trust is not something that comes easily with military men because of the nature of their work. Thus, if he trusts you, there is a good chance he also likes you.

An excellent cue of his trust is if he introduces you to his unit. This is because, in the military realm, a unit is like a family. When you meet his unit and they are not surprised to see you or know a lot about you, it means that he talks about you regularly. From here, you can tell that his feelings are sincere.

3. He shares his feelings with you

For most men, sharing inner feelings is taboo. It is deemed a weakness and vulnerability. On top of that, military service members are trained to control their feelings.

If your military guy is willing to confide and talk about his feelings with you, you can be rest assured that he is into you. This means that he is open towards you and wants you to be a true part of his life.

Plus, this is an obvious indicator that he trusts you—a sign that we have mentioned above!

4. He calls you whenever he has time

Time is a luxury in the military. Since there is always something to do, free time is rare. As such, if he spends his spare time calling you, then you surely have a special place in his heart.

His feelings are strong and true enough to exchange the minimal personal time that he has for you. Therefore, if he calls you whenever he has the opportunity to, you can be sure that he likes you.

5. He gives you attention

When a military guy gives you his attention and dedicates his time to you, there is a high chance he is head over heels for you. In particular, he will direct his focus on you and listen to all the little details. It is like his eyes are only on you—if that is the case, you are sure he has feelings for you.

6. He looks for your support

Support is one of the main reasons why people go into relationships. So, this is, without a doubt, a telltale sign that your guy likes you.

This can become clearer once he completes his service. When he is readjusting to civilian life and looks for your support, it is clear that his feelings are genuine. He values and appreciates you—what more can you ask for, right?

Recognizing a Fake Military Man: Online Dating Scams


The above signs are all quite obvious to notice if you have met the military guy in person. However, if you are dating a military man online, it is a lot harder to pick up the signs and tell for yourself.

As mentioned briefly in the beginning, there are many scamming scenarios where frauds pretend to be military personnel and try to coax you into giving them money. To be aware and avoid falling for such situations, closely read through these next few signs or check this guide to know the best way to spot a fake military man.

If he has only sent you pictures and texts, while avoiding calls and video calls because of “security reasons,” it is very likely that he is a fraud. Do not dive deep into a relationship where you are only texting and sharing photos. It is possible that you are just receiving stock photos!

Can he tell you information about his unit? Does he stammer or hesitate when talking about anything military-related? Typically, military men are very proud of what they do, and since military work is what they do all day, it should not be difficult for your guy to talk about the military.

Of course, there are confidential things that they cannot disclose, but if he is not able to share basic information and stories, then chances are, he is a fraud.

Is his spoken language, particularly grammar and spelling, good enough to support the fact he is in the U.S military?

These are some of the many questions that you can ask yourself if you see red flags from your supposed military partner.

Like other scammers, there will be a sense of urgency. He may be quick to profess their undying love for you. He cannot wait to see you and immediately refer to you as his love, baby, darling, etc. Trust me, it is not because military men move faster in relationships—they are scammers.

Typically, these imposters convince you that they need financial support for legitimate but unspecified reasons. But, do not rush into being blinded by love!

  • Most of the time, military service members and general officers will not be on an online dating site.
  • They are covered by insurance and special programs, so they rarely need support for covering medical expenses.
  • Plus, on deployed missions, they get a budget. You do not need to raise funds for them to carry out their tasks successfully or safely.

Just now are three wake-up calls for you. If you suspect that the guy you are talking to is not the real deal, he probably isn’t.

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So, there you have it. We have just gone through 8 signs on how to know if a military guy likes you. And if you are dating online, be aware of scammers. There is a high chance that you are interacting with an imposter.

Hopefully, this has been helpful. Were you able to determine if the guy you are talking to from the military is interested in you? If yes, share with us in the comments the clearest sign that you picked up! We look forward to hearing from you soon.

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